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Gaming Slang “Rape” – Offensive For Females To Use?

July, 22, 2015

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When I started playing SWTOR my past gaming experiences were very limited. I remember playing a bit of Sonic on my uncles old SEGA but at the time I must have been about nine years old. Over ten years later I ran into SWTOR. Since reading and writing has always been a passion of mine I found this new medium of storytelling fascinating. I eventually found the little button on the minimap which lead me into warzone queues and that was that.

I no longer cared about story content, I could beat people up in warzones instead. Well, get beaten up mostly really but for some reason I still enjoyed it immensely. Needless to say at this point I was clueless about half of the things being said in chat. I was quite proud over having grasped the concept of the different roles (tank, healer and dps) but on a daily basis I was looking up acronyms like “ikr”, “aoe”, “pug”, “gg” and “fps”. Expressions like “casual”, “rekt” or “grind” were just as incomprehensible to me. Urban dictionary was my best friend while unsuccessfully trying to camouflage myself as a real gamer like the rest you. I have to admit, the first time someone called out they were getting raped in a warzone I was confused.

After having played the game a little longer and thankfully gotten at least a little bit better at it the language too started coming more naturally. Urban dictionary and me no longer needed each other. Without thinking of it I was using the terms that had once been so alien to me.

One day when I was on TS with a few friends something interesting happened that I could not have predicted. This was a particularly close group of friends I had joined and the atmosphere was very cheerful. We were in an especially interesting game of Civil War where we were just barely managing to hold on to the middle node. Whilst laughing over the jokes being made on TS one of the guys in our premade was trying to interrupt the enemy from capping.

“I’m getting raped here guys!” he exclaimed just before he died and was sent to re-spawn.

Luckily I was just close enough to interrupt the next cap but soon enough met the same fate as my teammate and died.

“Now I’m getting raped instead” I said smiling not realising that it would sound different to them when I, a female gamer, spoke these words.

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The laughter instantly died out. Somehow the severity of the word and the implications outside of a gaming environment had been triggered by the mere fact that I was female. The silence was of the kind that inspired an image in my mind of a white, empty room where the guys on TS were looking uncomfortably from one person to the next, telepathically saying to each other “What did she just say?” in disbelief.

This to me was an intriguing phenomenon. I don’t think it would’ve happened with any group of players, but it did happen and it made me wonder about the implications. It seems to suggest that the word “rape” is too serious to be casually used by a female in this way but when a male uses it then it is ok. I’m not offended by this notion, I am curious about it.

What do you think? Why does it sound so different when a woman uses the term? Should we all remove the word from our gaming vocabulary and simply not use it? Or should we all relax our attitude to the word? Give me your thoughts in the comments below!

Written by: Noctua

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  1. John Smith
    February 6, 2017 at 4:58 pm

    Although I give you as much respect as you deserve (which, by the way, is none), you are wrong. I would suggest you stop complaining and get a life. If you don’t enjoy the system (and services provided), don’t use them. I know I’m a bit late to the party, but if you read this, I hope you’ve grown up and realised by now how stupid this post is. Thanks. Lots of love. Jon.

  2. Matt Ruane
    September 16, 2015 at 3:00 pm

    I don’t use slang such as this, because it’s just lain vulgar to me as a person. I don’t believe that it should be acceptable to use slang such as this because of how serious a matter rape actually is. Serious issues like this are one of the reasons I’m not overly keen to play Cards Against Humanity, it’s just cringe worthy.

  3. Muhammed Koya
    November 16, 2015 at 6:41 pm

    Although I don’t know exactly what kind of silence it was (i.e. disapproving type, awkward type etc) I can say I’ve never heard the someone say the phrase “now I’m getting raped.” As weird as it sounds, saying I’m getting raped or he or she is getting raped sounds a lot more acceptable. I think it may have been the use of the word “now” that makes it seem like the “rape” has transferred in your direction.

    When the “raping” transfers I always hear phrases more along the lines of “they’re on me now.” I’ve only ever heard the rape phase as I stated above.

  4. Eli Emi
    December 4, 2015 at 8:10 am

    What can you really do, there are things guys and girls that make it different, and these are one of the prime examples. For a guy, myself, I have seen it a couple of times, and might or might not have used it myself.

    To be honest, I don’t know what to write on a chat, or even use voice chat to say, I just got, “I just got raped”, sounds awkward to me. But I am strongly against censorship,at least in the realm of online games, it might sound nasty, but if we censor words like these, what might be next?

    Girl or boy, say whatever you like, this is the internet, but follow the rules of the game or website.
    We have enough people wanting to silence the gaming community with dumb stuff like this, we don’t need more.

  5. Lucy Bettison
    September 7, 2015 at 1:21 pm

    As a girl gamer myself I don’t not use words like Rape or whatever other slang players may say because I’m female, i just don’t use them because I don’t think it’s appropriate. I may have said them in the past when I was a little more immature but I have never had the sort of reaction you had when you were talking with friends.

  6. Celina Yik Sze Wong
    September 14, 2015 at 2:24 pm

    That is very interesting because I use these slangs all the time and it seems that no one, at least in my games, actually really care if I do or not. I mean, I play LoL so I guess when you’re taric and screaming rape, it’s quite an easy joke… still.

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