It’s the age old argument – we make people, well children really, decide what they want to do when most are too young to really know. Then they grow up in a job they no longer want to do, and are miserable.
Then they get complained at, told they should have thought about that before they chose whichever particular course to study at university, or to go down a certain line of employment once they’d finished school. I’ve heard “it’s a means to an end” and “you’re earning, it’s money, that’s all that matters” too many times to count now. But maybe just earning isn’t enough, for some it’s quite literally soul destroying.
I didn’t think I’d find myself in that situation, I thought there was no way. I was sure my chosen university subject of Events Management was the one. After all, I loved going to events, and I loved working at them too. I’d worked at several before and I’d loved that, even if I was merely standing around stewarding! So I was so sure that I was making the right decision, despite knowing I was letting people down – who studies law, psychology, history & biology at A Level to go on and study events?! Me, apparently. The high expectations from family & friends didn’t help either, it was almost a mini rebellion.
Now the time has come where I’ve never regretted a decision so much in my life. I mean, sure, if I’d chosen differently then I wouldn’t have the friends I have now, nor would I have just moved into a new house with my boyfriend, but I still can’t help wishing I’d chosen another subject to study.
But of course there’s not a whole lot anyone in this situation can do, you’ve already used your years of free education, and like hell can you afford to pay these new trumped up tuition fees out of your own pocket (or maybe you’re one of the lucky few who can)!
So you’re left, stuck wondering if things would be different and you’d be in a career you’re happy in if you’d chosen differently as a teenager. Instead you’re having to work hard to make things work, with no degree in the subjects you have now decided you’d like to work in. If you’re like me, you’re taking a multitude of cheap online courses, those being the only additional education you can currently afford. Wondering how many others are doing the same thing and are sat watching those online videos just to get those extra qualifications like you.
When I discovered that I no longer wanted to work in my chosen degree subject, I felt a little lost and it was as though all my purpose had gone, of course you feel like a failure. It’s a brutal reality to discover you’ve thrown away the best opportunity you could have had for a career you want.
So now it’s all down to hard work, making ends meet, and just praying that opportunities come along at the right time. Maybe if I work for long and hard enough in a job I hate, I can work towards saving to go back into education. But for now it’s a case of focusing on my hobbies as a distraction – who knows, maybe one day they’ll bring me an income in instead, after all, wouldn’t we all love to make money from our hobby, using our passions to earn enough to get through each day. If only when knew that when we made our choice of university course, potentially the biggest choice we’d make.
My advice – don’t take it too hard, you’ll be amazed at how many people are in the same situation as you! Even if you have to work at a job you don’t like for a short time whilst you figure out where you’re at, make sure every day when you go home you don’t just jump on the sofa and watch Netflix whilst scrolling through Facebook. Give yourself a little purpose, take up a new hobby if you don’t have one already – learn to play an instrument, write a book, learn a new language. From personal experience I can say that keeping busy whilst you’re in a bit of a rut (well this particular rut at least) is the best way out of it. For me writing and photography have given me back some much needed purpose whilst I figure out where to go from here!