My lack of enthusiasm towards make-up has my mum (and everyone I know) worried about “what kind of a girl” I’m turning out to be.
I Don’t like makeup. I’ve always been very anti-make up to be honest, and on the occasional times that I have worn make-up, I have felt really uncomfortable. In fact, it makes me feel worse when people compliment me because then all I can think of is, “I don’t really look like this” and “do I have to wear make-up for people to consider me pretty?”, and most importantly, “do I really look that bad without anything on my face?” I don’t like having to hide my flaws or “enhance” my beauty just to meet other peoples’ standards.
I’ve often had my friend’s mums or aunties tell me I would look so beautiful, if only I put on “a bit of make-up” or did my eyebrows, or straightened my hair. And although I have grown a thick skin to it, there may be girls out there who haven’t. There have been moments when I’ve felt insecure. I’ve been at weddings without wearing any make-up and have had people tell me how I should have made more effort with my appearance. They often say, “what will you do after you’re married” and “what will your husband say?”
If I ever have a daughter, I would want her to be comfortable in her own skin. I would want her to be able to go out bare faced and be completely okay with how she looks, even on a day when she’s pulled an all-nighter before and has dark circles and puffy eyes. I want her to be okay with the fact that bad hair days don’t always need to be fixed and that hair straighteners are only damaging.
“…I don’t really blame men for this. I blame women. Women have created these insecurities amongst themselves, and these insecurities have been inherited and carried around by women too…”
And I want her to know that she should never feel the need to wear make-up just to impress a man. It’s something that we have drilled into the heads of women around the world and it’s created this innate insecurity in every girl I know.
But no, I don’t really blame men for this. I blame women. Women have created these insecurities amongst themselves, and these insecurities have been inherited and carried around by women too. But surprisingly, there haven’t been many guys who have judged me for not wearing make-up, but almost every girl or woman I know, has at least once pointed out to me that I could look “prettier”.
My self-esteem isn’t dependent on a pimple or a scar; it’s healthy as long as I feel comfortable in my own skin. And I want that for every woman who feels the need to cover up every little blemish, because your flaws are a part of who you are and you shouldn’t want to wear make-up to cover it out of insecurity. Gender-roles are crap and not dressing up doesn’t make you any less of a woman than if you did wear make-up.
Wear make-up because you want to, not because of an insecurity.