So you’ve asked a girl out on a date. She said yes and you’re feeling unstoppable, but this is just stage one – now you have to win her over on that all important first date. You know how people say first impressions aren’t everything? Well in this case they are, so here are some tips on first date expertise…
Don’t go full Romeo
Girls loves romance, and they love guys being romantic, but this is your first date, not your wedding day! Keep your inner Romeo at bay. In addition, do not say the ‘L’ word. Do not say love. This will most likely scare her off and ruin the whole date. The little romantic touches will make her intrigued to get to know you more.
Don’t be a twat
When you first meet a girl, you want to make sure you stand out and seem confident. However, there’s a fine line between confidence and arrogance which you can quickly cross over, and that’s where it can all go wrong. The minute you start throwing around arrogance, the girl is quickly turned off. Girls can instantly pick up that you’re being cocky, so you have to make sure you have the right attitude to make the first date smooth. So make sure you keep your cool – that way you’ll know the second date’s secured.
Keep bodily fluids to yourself
Manners are so important, especially on the first date. Opening the door, letting her walk in first and then pulling her chair out are all key. Keep the manners high and don’t do anything stupid – I once saw a man on a date use his napkin to blow his nose and then leave the snotty mess on the table! Keep your etiquette up and make sure you act the gentleman.
It’s not an interview…but make sure she hires you
When you go on a first date you want to get to know each other, right? That involves a fair amount of questions. Take it at a steady pace; don’t ask her a million and one questions, firing them at her before she can even reply. Stay relaxed and give her the time to reply to the questions you ask. Then, when it’s your turn to answer, elaborate on things to get the conversation flowing in different directions – a simple yes and no won’t do.
Go somewhere new or get lost
DO NOT GO TO YOUR LOCAL, I’m going to repeat that: when you take a girl out on the first date do not go to your local pub. Go somewhere new to you both, because that way, you’ll both remember it as an exciting first date experience! I once saw a couple in a place I knew, and I could clearly see they were on a first date, but every second person that walked past knew the guy and wanted to have a chat. You need to make sure she gets your full attention.
The past is the past
We all have a history with exes; some we ended on good terms with, and some we never want to talk to again. But on a first date you should NEVER, and I repeat, NEVER bring up exes. Trust me, the girl doesn’t want to hear about them. The problem is, if you start talking about an ex-girlfriend on the first date, she will immediately feel that you’re still attached, and you don’t want that at all.
If you’ve followed these rules, then congratulations: you’ve made it to the second date!
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