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Articles > Relationships September, 01, 2021

Six things you need to hear if you’ve had a mutual breakup

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Break ups can be hard – take it from me, I’ve just left a 2-year relationship. It’s difficult dealing with a mutual breakup, especially if nothing went drastically wrong in the end. Having everyone in your life suddenly asking you if you’re alright and making super cheesy jokes to try to cheer you up can be frustrating when all you want is to be left alone. However, every now and then you’ll get some genuinely good advice.

1. It’s okay to be sad. It’s okay not to be sad.

Everyone reacts in a different way to relationships ending, whether they are romantic or platonic. Some people sob their heart out to Olivia Rodrigo albums and eat a whole pint of ice cream, but others might continue life as normal. Whatever you’re feeling is valid, and as long as you’re not putting yourself at risk, do whatever you need to.

2. Take it one day at a time.

You might want to wake up one morning and be completely fine, but you can’t expect it. It might be the last thing you want to do, but getting up each morning and pushing yourself through the day is the best way to navigate through the aftermath of a breakup.

3. Talk to people you trust.

I know that sometimes it can be hard to open up, but sharing what you’re thinking about can take the weight off your shoulders and sometimes just talking can make you feel better.

4. There’s nothing wrong with you.

If you were broken up with, you’re probably going to be doubting every action/word/decision you’ve ever made to try and figure out where it went wrong. Don’t. In the end, you had no control over it. You’re worthy of love.

5. It may take time…

Maybe days, weeks, months, years. It hurts now but at some point, the pain will subside, and you’ll be able to look back and smile.

6. You did your best, that is all that’s expected.

No-one is perfect, but that doesn’t mean you aren’t going to get hurt sometimes. Just be yourself, do what you can do, and live by your own standards.

No relationship is perfect, so no break up is going to be perfect. How you deal with it is valid, even if it’s nothing like what we see in movies or on the TV. As long as remember that you can get through this.

Breakups can be really difficult 😓 For more relationship advice, check out the suggested articles.

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    this article is very informative and I am definitely sharing it with my friends.

  2. William Massey

    This article is relevant to teenagers and young relationships.

  3. Ishmal

    I believe the article provides very deep information that people may feel is wrong, but it right for them. Feeling like this is really normal and it is important there is more awareness about this. I would recommend people using this and this can be used as ‘ peace of mind’ and it might make you feel better.

  4. Namecassie

    I think…such a good article

  5. Amelia

    I think that this article is great for people who don’t know how to feel after a break-up, especially if it’s your first one. It was a great article, with information being clearly presented in a fun and engaging way. I also think that this would also help people trying to help friends going through a break-up as they could help direct them to the article! 🙂

  6. Mikaela Amoako

    thank you very much for this article, it is very informative, my friend just broke up with her boyfriend of 1 year and is finding it very hard to cope right now. I will definitely share this article with her. thank you!

  7. Emma McCurdy

    I think this is such a good article, would definitely be beneficial to people who are struggling to get over a break up. I enjoyed reading it and was engaged through out.

  8. Emma McCurdy

    I think this is such a good article, would definitely be beneficial to people who are struggling to get over a break up.

  9. Ruth

    I think…it is very helpful especially for teens

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    I think…it is really helpful and so true

  11. Kazeem jibola

    I think… You cannot convince people to love you. This is an absolute rule. No one will ever give you love because you want him or her to give it. Real love moves freely in both directions. Don’t waste your time on anything else.

  12. Oluwapelumi Elizabeth

    I think this is such an enlightening article

  13. hashir

    This was helpful! Thanks for sharing.

  14. Nicola T

    I think…this is a simple and honest article, especially relevant to teenagers and young relationships